Christmas Gift from Youthmark

Merry Christmas from the Aaby family and Youthmark!

Since you found yourself perusing the web and came across my blog, go ahead, sit back, relax and take in a couple minutes of highlights from the Live and Love Loudly Spring Tour 2010.

A big thank you to Francisco Santana for the edit work on the video (he composed and performed the music as well).

2011 is going to be a big year for us! This year’s Spring Retreat, Together! is going to be quite the event… I’ll be leaking some of the info as the dates approach, but you won’t know what you’re going to get until you’re there!

Merry Christmas!

Grace,

Brian

The Fall In Pictures

Just to catch you up on the fall, here are some pics (featuring things like: First day of school, Puyallup Fair, Victoria with Elisabeth, late-season M’s, Halloween, YMV Lunches, Scout trip to Costa Rica, snow, Christmas tree and decorating, field trips and more)!

Grace,
Brian

Three-For-Thursday: New Youthmark things

It seems we’re either gearing up for something or winding down from that last something.  In our families it’s stuff like the school year, the holidays, family vacation, or a sports season.  In ministry it’s the program year, that camp, the mission trip, graduation and a few others!  As soon as we get done winding down, we’re gearing up for the next, sometimes we never get to wind down!  As I wind down from the fall tour of lunches and put the final touches on the writing projects I’m “gearing up” for some great stuff ahead…

For today’s Three-For-Thursday, I am going to share three things I am very excited about that we’re “Gearing Up” for  at Youthmark!

  1. Costa Rica! Last year we had our first “international” mission trip to Mexico through a large group that did a select package with Youthmark.  Well, this year we’re launching not only Mexico, but also Costa Rica!  Having been there once and I have  second scout trip planned for January I can simply say that there is no shortage of need there.  These trips are going to be so transformational for both the communities served but also for the teams serving.
  2. Together: Spring Retreat! Our first two years of spring retreats have been amazing, as the preliminary plans are being formed for the 2011 Spring Retreat I can simply say that once again it will be so different but equally awesome!  Joe Poppino will be back for worship, but this time we’re also bringing in The Admission. Joe will bring his singer-song writer-worship leader expertise to help mentor them as a new band!  In addition the training will be over-the-top creative!  I can’t wait to reveal these new aspects!  The theme is “Together” as we’ll concentrate on how often the Lord uses many “together” to bring people to Himself!
  3. The MPW & Leaders Guide! Brand-new this year is the added element of 10 lessons we’ve outlined in the Leader’s Guide so that the entire Youth Group can learn about Mission51. We don’t want anyone in the group to miss out on the opportunity to be a missionary here and now!  On top of that I am so excited about the materials in the Mission Prep Workbook entitled Anywhere. There are 10 studies (for the individuals training) and 10 PODs (Practice of Discipleship).  I think it is by far the best we’ve done so far.

If you haven’t seen this years stuff, you can click here for a preview.  I am VERY excited about all the places we’re sending folk, but to be honest I’m even more thrilled to hear about the “at home” stuff that I continue to hear, read and see with groups that have gone with Youthmark in the past!

Please pray for even more groups to sign up with Youthmark for a mission trip or for our new “A La Carte” options that allow groups to still use our training materials that already know where they are going or already have a sending agency they are working with.  Mission is not just there!  Mission is not just here!  It is ANYWHERE!

Grace,

Brian

SMS: Talk About Things You Love

If you have spent more than 10 minutes with me in the last two years you’ve probably heard me ask (and then answer) the rhetorical question, “why aren’t are young people sharing their faith?

I give three reasons:

  1. They fear rejection (of the family member or friend with whom they would share).
  2. They feel like they don’t know the right words to say (“I’d screw it up and say the wrong thing).
  3. They haven’t had it modeled (those that have gone before them, yes, including us, in youth ministry).

These are the things we’re trying to tackle at Youthmark! I believe that we can better equip students (and adults) with a relational approach to loving, caring and sharing with those who do not yet know Jesus.  I think teens will grow in knowledge and confidence that will lead to a loving relational boldness (w/o crossing the line of being “in your face”).  In doing this, I think one more key element must not be ignored… We must model it!

For my Student Ministry Stuff (SMS) post this week I would like to relationally and boldly (w/o crossing the line of being “in your face”) challenge you Mr. and Mrs. Adult Youth Leader to talk about the things you love!

This post comes from my experiences over the last week to ten days.  On top of hosting three lunches for Youthmark Mission Ventures and our Mission51 strategy, I was in and out of many-a-coffee-shop while trying to meet writing deadlines (speaking of, should I really be blogging right now?)… In this recent time period I have had at least five opportunities to share Jesus one-on-one as a result of people overhearing me talk about things that I love.

People Want To Love What You Love

While standing in line in Nashville, Elisabeth was overheard talking to her mom about different restaurants in the area.  We were hungry and didn’t know where we wanted to go. We’re obviously not locals, y’all, but the gal in front of my family was.  She gladly talked about the places she loves to eat.  We hit one (or two) of them up.  We wanted to love the restaurants she loved.  We were happy to take her recommendation.

While speaking to Youth Leaders in Portland our bus-gal (is that what you call a female who “busses” tables?) overheard a lot of our presentation as she walked around clearing plates and refilling glasses.  After the lunch and all the patrons had cleared, she said, “so, you obviously love kids and church-stuff, what is it that you do?”

Being overheard talking about the things that I love will open up doors to talk to others about the things that I love.

Are you talking about things you love, like Jesus?… students?… ministry?… church?… Scripture?…your marriage?… your Family?… even in public in such a way that people will ask you follow-up questions?

People Want to Be Part of the Conversation

While getting a refill on my coffee the other day I was asked by my Barista, whom I thought to be a Christian, “what are you doing today?”  I said, “just finishing and editing a book.”  The conversation continued, “what’s the book about, if you don’t mind me asking?”  Having told her that I was writing a book about Paul’s missionary journeys in the book of Acts we continued to have a 10 minute conversation talking about different things she and her husband are learning in their study of the book of Colossians.  During this conversation another Barista joined in and asked a number of questions about the Bible, places I was writing about, the bible study her coworker was a part of and how it matters to us now.

The first gal is certainly a strong believer, but the second Barista did not know this about her… yet.  I am thankful that an overheard conversation can lead to a possible relational evangelism opportunity between two Baristas!

Are you answering questions in such a way that invites further conversation with people about things of the Lord?  Are you looking for teammates, understanding it might not always be you that gets so share Jesus?

People Need For You To Speak Up When The Door Has Been Opened

I started each of my YMV/M:51 lunches with a short look at the beginning of Mark 2; the passage which describes Jesus healing the man lowered from the room to Jesus.  At the end of four or five minutes I would ask the Youth Leaders to engage one another with a specific question I asked.  During this several minute break, our waiter, who probably should have been circling the room getting orders, instead asked me… “hey, you ever read The Shack?”

I have not read The Shack, but do know enough about it to keep the conversation flowing. It was clear that this waiter did not know the Lord, but had a baseline understanding of God’s love for him in light of what he had read in the book.  It was a short conversation, but one in which I was able to share a little bit about Jesus and the free gift of grace He offers us in the midst of all the life throws at us.

The waiter continued to listen (and did do a great job serving us).  I had a short follow-up conversation with him as well.  It was very evident to me that he was open to the Gospel.  He was asking the leading questions.  He was seeking!

Are you listening to the questions being asked of you in such a way that you may see the door way open to share about Christ? It is very easy to just answer a question, but perhaps the question being asked is an open door for much more to be shared.

Are You Talking About The Things You Love?

It is easy for me to talk about my favorite team, a recent trip, my family… these things often do lead to entry points into relationship which then could lead to spiritual conversations.

However… I love Jesus.  I love the things that Jesus loves.  And I recently discovered that talking about Him out loud leads to these relational conversations even quicker!  Not saying that I’m going to start strategically speaking a little louder or a little more often… just saying that as my confidence grows, as I’ve gotten to know how to share the story more, as I’ve become a little more bold, I want to speak about Jesus more!  Perhaps my perspective is just changing, but it sure seems God is taking me to the places where people are seeking.

Let’s talk about the things we love (and in so doing begin to model to our students that relational, conversational, non-confrontational evangelism is actually a lot easier than we thought)!

Grace,
Brian

OSF x 3 and some other stuff

Some might think I would be tired of the Old Spaghetti Factory.  With three Youthmark Mission Venture lunches in the last week (four if you include the one Kirk did in Coos Bay, OR), I have had my fill of Spaghetti and Marinara.  Here’s a quick recap of those lunches and the great folk I got to hang out with.

Portland. Kirk and I hosted about 30 folk at the OSF in Portland.  This group was fun and energetic.  Upon arrival the management had already set up our room with two very  long tables of about 14-16 each.  Well, this years promotional lunch is better suited for tables of 4-6 to promt better discussion.  So, after some re-arranging we welcomed the group of Youth Leaders.  The movement of the tables was very wise, the 5-6 tables had lively discussion.  My prayer is that many of these leaders, who seemed to really grasp the Mission51 concept, will jump on board and do a YMV this year!

Tukwila. Last year the Tukwila (Southcenter) OSF played host to 56 youth leaders in the greater Seattle area.  Tukwila served as our one marketing lunch for the region.  My decision this year was to break into three lunches in the hopes we would draw more than the 56 from 2009.  Hosting lunches in Lynnwood (23), Lacey (19) and Tukwila (31) was a good decision.  I really enjoyed the Tukwila lunch in a different way than any of the other lunches.  Almost everyone at the Southcenter OSF had been previously exposed to the YMV/M:51 strategy. In many ways it felt like family around the table!  My prayer for this group is that my “home” area, while teaming with Youthmark can become the true catalysts in leading their students toward something greater than a mission trip; namely raising up students who are reaching their campus, club, community and church for Jesus.

Nashville. The National Youth Workers Convention was taking place in Nashville this last weekend.  With the encouragement of my friends at YMToday.com (and Center for Youth Ministry Training), I did a last-minute marketing lunch to Nashville.  It was a joy to see the South, participate in the NYWC, meet many new ministry organizational leaders and spend great time with my wife (and my in-laws who joined us).  The Nashville OSF played host to 35 for lunch on Saturday.  Because Youthmark is a little more known in the West I literally felt the pressure of making this lunch a meet and greet and mission/training presentation in one.  On top of this, it came during the lunch break of the convention, which meant I had about 75% of the normal time and about 150% of the normal information I would give.  Though I look back and wish I would have presented a little differently, it was a GREAT learning experience and I had wonderful conversations with youth leaders from all across the South and East.  I’m praying that the door is open and that we gain momentum even this year with some churches in the South!

I’ll try to write later about some of the organizational leaders I got to meet with while in Nashville.  It was a fantastic time for Youthmark in that regard.

When it was all said and done, the week filled with three OSF lunches obviously was not enough.  Sunday night, Elisabeth’s parents and the Aaby couple decided to hit up the Spaghetti Factory one more time for dinner!  Kudos OSF, your creamy pesto salad dressing continues to score!

Grace,

Brian

Whatatotallycrazyandbusybutgoodweek!

This week seemed like a month.

Yet it seemed like a day.

Been too busy to post regularly, but I’ve had soooo much to post about.

It is crazy to think that it was only 6 days ago I was at Faith watching six people get baptized and proclaim their love for Jesus.  Seriously, that feels like it was four weeks ago.

It is hard to believe that in this last week Youthmark hosted three lunches with nearly 100 Youth Leaders/Pastors in attendance.

I can’t believe that I’ve been in the last 8 days or so I’ve been in SoCal, Seattle, Portland, Seattle and Nashville.

Each lunch seemed like it was literally just this afternoon…

The week has flown by, but seemed so long.

It has been a crazy, wonderful, busy week.  Though I’ve loved every lunch, every conversation with youth leaders, every opportunity to share Jesus (which I had 3 or 4 witness opps this last week)… I look back on this last week and not just because it was her birthday, but the highlight of this crazy end-of-the-week time has really been the time I’ve gotten with my beautiful bride, Elisabeth!  I love you Babe!

Grace,
Brian

Sunny San Marcos!

Tuesday afternoon Buzz Huget and I flew in to sunny Long Beach CA.  We immediately drove to In-N-Out Burger (was there any doubt that this would be our first SoCal meal?).  After a great burger we drove south to Escondido!  What a great time with the Clarks, honestly, Jerusha blessed us with probably the best pork-chops I’ve ever eaten! After dinner Buzz, Alon (newest Youthmark staffer) and I had some great discussions; local Youth Pastor and new friend, Wes Trevor joined us for some down-time.

On Wednesday we hosted 22 folk at the Old Spaghetti Factory in San Marcos for our YMV Preview lunch and presented our mission trips and the Mission51 strategy!  I really felt this group of YP’s was engaged in the discussion of how to take this beyond the one-week mission experience!  I look forward to seeing the fruit from this region!

Please be in prayer for Alon as he follows up with this great group of leaders and as he now expands to the other regions of San Diego county!

What a blessing of a trip!

Grace,
Brian

600 Club!

Blog post #600!

A lot has happened in the last 2 and half years, I am happy to say that a lot of my life (and Youthmark’s life) has been recorded in this online journal format.

Just a fun little survey to find out what you like best about the blog… So, if there is anything you’re particularly fond of, pick it (multiple selections are possible).

Thanks for stopping by, I hope you continue to stop by! Here’s to the next 600 posts.

Grace,
Brian

North, then South

This week was a blast.  I returned from Costa Rica (with a quick stop at LAX) at 9:18AM on Tuesday.  At Noon that day I was welcoming in Youth Leaders to the Old Spaghetti Factory in Lynnwood for our first Western WA preview lunch for YMV’s.  I was truly blessed to see so many new faces and many friends I’ve know for years.  Though tired from being gone and very little rest, I believe I still connected on the passion level with these leaders!

On Wednesday one of my primary contacts from Costa Rica was in town.  I had just met Erick in Costa Rica on Friday night, and here we were having lunch together at The Rock in Covington on Wednesday.  So fun to form friendships so quickly.  I can’t wait to see the blessing Erick will be to us in CR and what sort of blessing Youthmark can be to his people in CR!

On Thursday we had our south-end Preview Lunch at RoundTable Pizza in Lacey!  Again, the blessing of spending time with many familiar faces while getting to meet brand new folk who have faithfully been serving in Student Ministries in the  Olympia, Lacey and central I-5 corridor areas!

This state is blessed with passionate folk who love the Lord and love teens.  I believe they are on board with Mission51 and hope that Youthmark can serve them in very practical ways in the months ahead!  Please pray specifically that many will partner with us and that we’ll see Western WA equipped with many more missionaries living out mission “over there” for one week and “right here” for the other 51 weeks!

Grace,
Brian

Here are some snaps from Lynnwood:

SMS: Re-Thinking Missions

Let’s start with a fun question:

If you could go anywhere in the world on a mission trip, where would you want to go and why?

Australia?  Italy?  Scotland?  Costa Rica? Haiti? East Africa?  Russia?

The location list is endless. But which one came first to your mind?

My guess is that not one of us named our home town, our neighborhood, our campus, or our unsaved friend’s house.

Jesus said, “you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem (home town), and in all Judea (surrounding communities) and Samaria (similar territory, different culture), and to the ends of the earth (across the borders… all borders).”

Most are enamored with the uttermost, we want adventure, we like travel, we’re looking to serve Jesus with all our heart and we want other people groups to know and love Christ.  There is NOTHING wrong with any of these.

But what about our Jerusalem?  It’s very interesting that in the first full seven chapters of Acts we have not one written “witness” account outside of Jerusalem.  This means that the very men (the 11 remaining Apostles) Jesus trained emphasized local mission.  In essence the list Jesus gives in Acts 1:8 could be looked at as a priority list.

What if?

I believe a paradigm shift needs to take place.  One practical question Youth Leaders are asking (and being asked) right now is, “where are we going next year on the mission trip?”  Very practical question.  But what if our question became, “what are we doing right now to discern where God would have us go as we continue to reach our Jerusalem?  Emphasis on “as we continue to reach our Jerusalem.”

Even as persecution took place in Jerusalem ( Acts 8 ) the Apostles remained.  The first person we read of witnessing outside Jerusalem is the Deacon Philip in a city in Samaria.  How interesting that the Apostles remained reaching Jerusalem.

“There” is an option… for sure!

I don’t want to downplay the Judea, Samaria and uttermost options.  We certainly are still fulfilling the call from Acts 1:8, nearly 1/5 of the world’s population lives in areas where the Gospel is still not yet preached.  However, in my own experience and based on the pattern I see in Scripture, going to the uttermost is never the starting point.  I believe we must start with our Jerusalem.  We must train, equip and send our disciples to/for our own home-towns!  This is what we (Youthmark) call Mission51!  We desperately want our teams to have a wonderful mission experience for one week, however, we want all participants living out the mission the other 51 weeks of life!

“Here” is always!

Youth Pastors, I completely understand that you need to answer the “where?” question.  However, I believe you must first answer the “how do we do it here?” question.  In nearly 20 years of student ministry experience I believe I have the answer.  The answer is simple, and my 20 years is merely a reflection of the answer that was given 2000 years ago.  “Make Disciples.”

We must prepare our participants before, during and after a mission trip so that Mission51 is the end goal.  It’s not just an experience, it’s a life-time experience. Please hear my heart, some may see this as a shameless plug for Youthmark Mission Ventures, if that’s what you feel, you’ve missed the point.  This is a shameless plug to fall in love with the lost!

My challenge is for all of us to re-think Student Missions (actually, all missions).  By emphasizing Jerusalem and training folk before, during and after, the emphasis becomes full-time mission, not one-week experience where we hope to get a spiritual high.  No more should we have sign-up, raise funds then show-up mission trips.  It needs to be about faith-building, prayer-reliant, disciple-making training so that we’re prepared for “here and there.”

Whether you, or your church ever do a Youthmark trip or use our Youthmark training materials, my challenge remains: make disciples, not thrill seekers.  The end result is that the thrill-ride that Jesus has for our us in our own Jerusalem will far surpass the thrills of seeing new lands.  As friends and family members in our own communities come to Christ we will experience eternal joy with those we were closest to on earth.

The next few weeks are very important weeks in my life.  I’m doing preview lunches for Youthmark where I am gathering Youth Pastors for a free meal.  Many of these Youth Pastor are coming to the lunch to consider “where they may go” on a mission trip.  And while we REALLY want them to do a YMV, my heart is that they “get” Mission51.  We believe in our curriculums, camps and materials we give for before, during and after.  We love the places we’re going (Costa Rica, Mexico, virtually every western, mountain and southern state; Alaska, Hawaii and Canada). We believe we have priced our products below what anyone other organization is doing, we very much want people to get onboard because we believe “our Jerusalem” is just as spiritually needy as ANY other place.

Last note.

I wrote this blog post in San Jose, Costa Rica.  Where my world was rocked once again.  The needs in Costa Rica were many.  I cannot begin to tell you how excited I am that we (Youthmark) get to partner with our brothers and sisters down south.  However, I know the ONLY way to impact that (CR) community is to have students/leaders who do this as an act of obedience and a natural out-flow of their desire to reach their own Jerusalem! Mission51 is the needs to be the new emphasis!

Let’s re-think this stuff together!

If you would like to be a part of Mission51, please preview the materials/trips online here, if you’re in an area that has a preview lunch, please register here (you can see the complete list of lunches with that click).

Grace,

Brian