No worries, I didn’t misspell anything and I’m not trying to be crass… The big “but” shows up in the passage below.
As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient. All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our sinful nature and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature objects of wrath. But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved. ~Eph. 1:1-6
I can’t speak for you, but I see poor parenting all the time. Go to the mall, observe at a park or (especially), turn on a sitcom. Now, poor parenting in my eyes may not be poor parenting in the eyes of another… but I see intentional and consistent shaming as poor. With that being said, I am sure there are times I am quite the hypocrite and blind to the fact that I have just done it.
I love this passage in Ephesians 1:1-6, it is the opposite of shaming to me… Paul points out the transgressions of the past, he identifies the wretched path they used to walk, he names their former identity…
…wait for it…
… here it comes…
But, he exclaims to the Ephesian believer and to us, you are different. He says, “But you aren’t these things anymore.” “But you walk that path no longer.” “But you have been redeemed through grace.”
Do we live in light of the big but? Do we realized we no longer need to follow our patterns of the past. I for one need this reminder. It is so easy to go back to bad choices, stay on the wide road because it is easier and ignore the grace in front of me. The foundation of my faith must be grounded in grace.
Embrace grace today!