This is the official SMS (Student Ministry Stuff) for this Christmas/New Year break.
When given the opportunity to take a break, have down time or be go on a vacation. Do so.
brianaaby.com is officially on a break, taking down time or on a vacation for the better part of this week.
The regularly scheduled SMS, Three-For-Thursday and other stuff will return next week (however, a CONTEST will be up tomorrow!).
Thank you.
Grace,
Brian
A couple things I came across this week in the ol’ blogosphere that gave me a good laugh.
Using WordPress gives me access to stats and such that I find interesting. For instance, I can see the search terms people have used to somehow come across my blog; there’s always some fun ones and they probably end up in their search results based on the titles of some of my posts. However, in the info section earlier this week I came across my own blog in Arabic! Check it out and then pray about being the person who launches our Middle East Youthmark Offices!:
Each day as I fire up the internet, as it warms up (you’re supposed to let it warm up right?), I peruse a few other Youth Ministry related blogs; if you’re looking for a good laugh, a couple I saw this week may make you giggle too.
Mark Oestreicher’s blog (and others) posted this great digital nativity:
Jason Lamb’s blog had this great one about the stereotypes of Youth Pastors:
Have a great weekend!
Grace,
Brian
Today I will conclude this four-part series essentially answering the question as to what the relationship between the church and parachurch could be. This series is specifically dealing with how the two deal with “youth ministry” related crossover. The first post (here) introduced the subject; the second post (here) dealt with how the parachurch may defend their ministry; the third post (here) handled the Youth Pastor (church) point of view and with this entry I will give some suggestions as to how I believe the two may better understand one another and work together well.
Network: I believe that the parachurch and Youth Pastors need to be in relationship with one another. It sounds very elementary, but when you know the heart, passions and even the families of one another the support for one another becomes very tangible and evident. If the relationship doesn’t exist yet, take the lead and initiate. A one-on-one coffee, lunch or “office drop by” could do a world-of-good for beginning that relationship. If an existing network gathering exists, make sure all churches and parachurches are consistently invited; have your network coordinator divvy out follow-up responsibilities so that the invite is given by various leaders.
Guest Speak: For the most part I believe the church should take the lead on this level. Inviting the Parachurch leader into your setting to guest speak will give Parachurch leader the opportunity to speak to a different crowd (one that his probably predominantly “churched” and stretch his/her speaking skills). I know that Rob, our local YL Director is an excellent communicator and can speak very well to “saved” folk just as well as he can speak to the unchruched (outreach crowd), I would guess the same is true in your area! The Parachurch leader can/should use this opportunity to help the churched understand his/her role at the parachurch. One very big misperception most Christian/Churched kids have is that ministries like Young Life are “Christian Clubs.” Though they are lead by solid Christians, most club-based parachurch ministries exist to reach the lost, therefore club is not the place that challenging Bible lessons are given or Hillsong United songs are sung. But because it is “Christian” the churched kids come to these settings and are sometimes surprised by the “party kid” they see, the lack of praise songs sung or the absence of a deep theological exhortation given and walk away saying “this wasn’t ‘Christian’ at all.”
Contact Work-Together: For the most part I believe the parachurch should take the lead on this level. A Young Life, or YFC (etc) leader typically have a great reputation on the middle school and high school campus. They, for the most part, are better at contact work because they are usually focussed on one campus, whereas most Youth Pastors I know have many schools represented at their church. I would challenge the Parachurch leader to give the YP a call and invite them to go with them on a campus visit, be it a lunchtime, a ball game or a time to be “hall monitor.” One MAJOR benefit will be for the churched and unchurched students to see the unity between the ministries/clubs as well. In these settings look to cross-pollinate–Church leader introduce your students to the vibrant parachurch leader and parachurch leader introduce your students to the “my good friend who is a great Youth Pastor from _______ church.”
Liaison Leadership: I think it would be fantastic for churches to have a “liaison leader” who concentrates his/her leadership with the parachurch club. Perhaps this leader is committed to one aspect of the church youth group (regular weekly meeting, Sunday School or small group) but then is committed to the Club as his/her other ministry. Rather than being a Church leader who both goes to Youth Group and leads a small group, be a church leader who attends Youth Group and the parachurch club. The opposite can be true as well. Perhaps as a Parachurch leader you can recruit a leader who is predominantly “outreach” driven, maybe this leader can commit to club, but also be committed to Sunday School at his/her local church. The key to this one is that both ministries NEED to understand this liaison leader is specifically NOT going to be a full-time volunteer with either; don’t place the expectation on that leader to be at everything; allow them to be a great bridge!
Prayer Partners: Above any programmatic partnership that could exist, I believe that the church and parachurch need to be prayer partners in a much greater way. This goes back to the first area of “networking” and relationship, but I believe that the church (especially) needs to partner with the local parachurch in a similar way we would partner with a foreign missionary. We support them in prayer and finances, I believe the church can/should do the same for our “Jerusalem Missionaries.” As the church we have a great opportunity to support (in prayer, deed and financially) the missionaries who are called specifically to lost teens in our community. I know that through this support and relationship that when souls are saved through the work of the Spirit at these campus based clubs that the most natural place the Parachurch leader will want the students to go is to a place that can properly nurture the young believer; where better than a place that has already prayed this teen to the point of salvation? When was the last time your church (or even your youth group) invited your local “Jerusalem” missionary to share a quick testimony upfront?
For His glory I believe that God will continue to build His house on the rock–The Church; but a natural arm (extension) of that body is the parachurch. I long for better relationship, one built on prayer, collaboration, partnership and sharing of ministry! I believe this can/should/will happen! For His glory! Amen?
Grace,
Brian
Now that this series is complete, I solicit your thoughts, suggestions, feedback and additions! Let’s keep the discussion going!
This is the third post in my series on The Church and The Parachurch. The basis of the series comes from question I received from a Youth Pastor friend in which he questioned whether or not our Young Life leadership was interested in getting the “saved” kids to church or not?
The first day (Tuesday) I introduced the subject and gave my background as to why I feel qualified to speak to it. You can read that post here.
The second post (Wednesday) gave the perspective of the (club oriented) Parachurch leader answering the accusation that they are just numbers oriented, don’t get kids into churches and water down the Gospel in their clubs. You can read that post here.
In today’s post I’ll attempt to answer from the Church leader perspective and defend the “rant” a parachurch leader may have toward church youth ministry. In the case you didn’t read past blogs, please note that the “parachurch” ministries I am speaking about are “club” based ministries that may look/feel a lot like a “youth group” but typically are geared more toward the unchurched (Young Life, Youth For Christ, etc.).
What’s Up With The Church? What you may hear from a parachurch leader: “The Church is only concerned their numbers, keeping kids safe and in their holy huddles; we never even see Youth Pastors.”
I certainly went through seasons of partnering well with the parachurch ministries and at other times I was the one lobbing some grenades (more the former than the latter). Like it or not and as I said in my last post, I believe that everyone should be concerned about their “numbers.” Numbers represent people and we all (church and parachurch) should seek to be the best shepherds of our flocks. There is a big difference between being numbers driven (just trying to get bodies into a program) and numbers-concerned (caring for the souls in attendance and trying to add more). As a Youth Pastor I wanted to see the number of people grow in our groups; this was not a driving force, but I do believe it is a natural result of discipleship (disciples who make disciples).
My “beef” with the parachurch as a Youth Pastor had to do the local parachurch leader not understanding how busy our church-kids already were and yet it seemed they wanted our (youth group) students at their local meeting for the sake of their numbers. On top of that they wanted our (Christian/churched) students to be “student leaders” in their club and that meant more commitments as well. I wanted spiritual/emotional health for our students; youth group, small group, Youth For Christ, and Youth For Christ Student Leadership meant a minimum of four nights out per week, before you factored in any other social, sport or other extra curricular activity.
I’ll speak more to this tomorrow, but I do believe that besides parents the church should be doing the job of reaching/teaching and equipping teens (and all) for the work of the Gospel. Parachurch ministries exist to come alongside the church and augment and enhance the ministry of the church, in essence it is an extension of the church. It could be argued that if the church were doing her job, parachurch ministries wouldn’t need to exist.
However, the church is not perfect. I was a student who trusted in Christ through the ministry of Young Life. I would not step foot in a youth group; but jumped through the doors of a parachurch organization.
As a Youth Pastor I recognize the fact that though I am driven evangelistically we had parents in our church who have more of a “holy huddle” (HH) mentality. Many who want their son or daughter “safe,” “in fellowship,” “memorizing Scripture” and unfortunately “not interacting with non-Christians.” These attitudes and statements certainly can give the church and youth group a reputation of not being very “safe” or welcoming for the unchurched. I certainly made effort to help give the “HH” students and parents a different understanding, while still trying to move forward with those who were more naturally drawn to the lost. In seasons this was successful, in the worst of seasons I was seen as somewhat liberal for reaching out.
To give comfort to the Parachurch leader: I believe MOST of the Youth Pastors out there have a similar mindset— they want unchurched, they want young believers, they desire to reach the ‘farthest out” student, but they also feel the pressure (named or unnamed) of the HH pastor, board and/or parents.
Last, addressing the idea of “seeing us Youth Pastors more.” I understood this to mean that the local FCA, YL or YFC leader wanted me to come to his/her ministry more often to reach the unchurched. Believe me, I would love to. However, like you, I am out 3-4 nights a week already! Youth Group, Small Group, Board and Committee meetings consume our time too, so while I would love to reach-out to the unchurched or help a brand new believer at that club get discipled, it could come at too great cost, especially after I had a family.
Though not all of the “issues” can be addressed in a semi-short blog series, my hope is to draw out some very practical applications for the church and parachurch in tomorrows final post on this subject. I do believe both ministries are vital and that the two can/should co-exist. Again, it’s about Jesus and making Him known, if we keep that as our focus He will be glorified by this One body coming together!
Grace,
Brian
Following a recent status update, a Youth Pastor friend messaged me: “So, how do you battle the trouble Young Life has with connecting teens to churches? Our local YL sees no problem and has no desire to connect teens to churches. Do you have an actual ‘Parachurch’ model working?”
Based on this and a number of conversations I’ve had over the years, I decided to take this question on in the form of a blog series. Yesterday I introduced the matter, read that post here.
Parachurch, as defined by wikipedia: Christian faith-based organizations that work outside of and across denominations to engage in social welfare and evangelism, usually independent of church oversight…
For the sake of my blog, I want to be specific about the kind of parachurch I am referring to. In this series I am specifically dealing with a parachurch like “Young Life,” ones that take on a similar form of that of a youth group (a gathering of students for a programmed time of some sort). Other organizations that could be included in such a category would be Youth For Christ, Athletes In Action, Youth Dynamics, Fellowship of Christian Athletes and several others.
With that specific type of parachurch “club” in mind, I’ll address the “What’s Up With The Parachurch?” question.
What You Might Hear From The Church (or Youth Pastor) : “The Parachurch is only concerned with numbers, keeping their students at their club and is really watered down; they never bring saved students to us.”
Let me start by saying every ministry should be concerned with “shepherding” so, if the argument is being made that a Parachurch leader is “keeping their kid,” I would hope that every leader (church or parachurch) wants to keep (shepherd) their students. The better question/statement could be, “once a student becomes a Christian, is a parachurch ministry effective in discipling the young believer? In general I believe that the parachurch NEEDS to be more proactive with the church leadership in getting students involved with the local church. The goal should not just be to get the student to camp and get them to say the “sinners prayer.” As a leader in a parachurch ministry (Young Life), I believe every student coming through the doors of our ministry (or those we meet outside of the ministry) is a person with whom we hope to share the Gospel. This student may or may not ever get to go to camp, so we look to love them then/there and enter relationship with them so this person can hear about and experience the person of Christ.
Though the parachurch I am volunteering with places a high emphasis on camp ministry (I believe Young Life does it best), the leaders who are most effective are going to be the ones who are committed to relationship now! But because they do camping ministry so well it is really easy to point toward camp and make that summer experience such an emphasis that it really can become about getting numbers to club so that we can do the ultimate push toward camp. I completely understand this potential knock against club-based ministry. It is something WE MUST resist and begin to see each person as a soul in need of redemption and then love them accordingly. God may or may not want them at camp and we must emphasize relationship now!
The issue of “watering down” the Gospel has come up a number of times in discussion. One key thing I would want all church leaders to understand, our goal is to see the unchurched and unreached students at our clubs. Though Christians are very welcome, our hope from the parachurch club side is that we have mainly non-Christians at the club (and that’s really what we want). If a Christian student comes, we believe they should be there to bring their unchurched friends. The audience does change the perspective of the listener. I believe this is Biblical. In Acts 17 alone, we read of Paul presenting the Gospel at least three different ways in three different cities, it was the EXACT same Gospel, but three different ways of presenting because of three different audiences in Thessalonica, Berea and Athens. Whether it is our director sharing, me or another leader, we are looking for entry points to share the Gospel with these students. My presentation style does change when speaking to a primarily unchurched group; everything from the stories I tell, the length of message and the potential point of action–this does not mean that I’ve watered down the Gospel. In fact, I would much rather love a student so well at club that my follow-up conversation at the basketball game or Dairy Queen is the place that I really get to share life with them (and the Gospel as well).
Much like the church, the parachurch is not perfect. There is so much more I can/should write on this subject, however, due to space, I’ll keep it at this for now and take on the “What’s Up with the Church?” tomorrow or Friday. Through that post and probably one more I hope to bring a little resolution as to how I believe we can work together better, get past some misperceptions and see the Kingdom increase so that God is most glorified. After all, this is about Him!
Grace,
Brian
On a Monday night a few weeks ago I updated my status on my Twitter and Facebook accounts; the update was something about the great time I was having hanging out with the high school students at Younglife. I’m honored to be a volunteer for my alma mater, my third year now on the team.
Upon returning home a Youth Pastor friend of mine had sent me a Facebook message. He questioned, “So, how do you battle the trouble younglife has with connecting teens to churches? Our local YL sees no problem and has no desire to connect teens to churches. Do you have an actual ‘Parachurch’ model working?”
Hmmm, where to go with that one? Experience and perception shapes reality, this Youth Pastor’s experience was that the YL leaders in his area want nothing to do with the church.
Each one of us will carry a different viewpoint based on our perception and experiences. For the next few SMS posts (all this week) I would like to point out the perceived problems, from both sides and then the possible partnership and solutions that could come out of it.
Let me start by saying, I feel qualified to speak to this issue; I am one who heard the Gospel and trusted Christ through the ministry of Younglife. I have been involved as a volunteer leader for two different seasons and spoken many-many times as a guest speaker and volunteer leader. I have been to YL camps on the program side, speaking side, staffing side and as a leader of kids. On the flip side; I got involved with a youth group my senior year in high school, then I was a Youth Pastor for 16 years and feel I know the “church” side of Youth Minstry pretty in depth as well.
I have “felt” both sides of the spectrum:
I am fortunate that even my own spiritual formation came because of the ministries of both the church and parachurch. Saved through Younglife; and then literally ignored (leadership transition led to not one person following up). I was fortunate to be invited to a great youth group and immediately was discipled by the Youth Pastor. I then attended a more church-oriented school (college) where “outreach” meant ministry to the down-and-out or out-of-country more then across-the-street. I did both the church and parachurch leadership thing through my college years. Through my years of being a Youth Pastor I have certainly had my own ups and downs in partnering with the Younglife and other orgs. I’ve made the accusations and received them as well.
Over the next few posts (and I’ll probably post each day this week until I feel I’ve exhausted this issue) I’ll take a look at the following:
I am fortunate and blessed to be on both sides, to see the strengths in both sides and to know the weaknesses of both as well. My hope is that through this series of posts a better understanding can come about so that we all understand that there isn’t “sides,” rather, one body, many parts.
Grace,
Brian
My Student Ministry Stuff (SMS) blog post is normally a once-a-week post (typically at the beginning of the week), however, last week I was motivated by a post by one of my friends in Colorado. Jason Lamb is a former Youth Pastor who now works for a great ministry (Dare 2 Share) which is based just outside of Denver, Colorado. Jason blogged about the trend he sees in church-ministry. That trend being a marginalization or prioritization of teens in church. To summarize, he sees the grey-area shrinking (grey being a church that places some emphasis on teen, but not enough to call teens a priority and enough to clearly say that they aren’t ignoring teens).
My take on the subject is that emphasis and prioritization ebbs and flows in most churches. This peak and valley is often dictated by the leadership in the lives of the students. Whether lay-driven, paid staff driven or a combination, my own belief is that a church can/will see greater prioritization in the lives of the teens if/when the leadership to the teens become proactive in the prioritization. Of course, this isn’t fool-proof; some churches will still somehow kill student ministry and in other cases ministry to teens can flourish when it seems there is no plan at all.
I suggest you go back and read part 1 here, then part 2 here. As a background, you may also want to read Jason’s post here.
As a church (and the leadership) begin to prioritize a philosophy of ministry instead of a personality and all of the personalities begin to invest in the congregation (by inviting them to participate in/with the teens) a third component for long-term prioritization emerges:
Prioritize and Publicize Evangelism. My own belief is that is pretty much impossible to fall more in love with the Lord without falling more in love with the lost. In other words, as the youth ministry prioritizes reaching out to their community, clubs, campuses and even those whom don’t know Jesus within the four walls of the church the rest of the congregation will NEED to hear about that. I don’t think anything infuses new life into a church more than hearing about NEW LIFE. Everyone should be practicing peer-to-peer outreach. As your teens fall deeper in love with the lost and begin to risk in relationship by sharking the Gospel make sure your congregation hears about that… others will begin to follow. Not only will they see that teens are making a difference they will see that youth ministry is much more than an entertainment stock-pile place. They’ll see it as Students IN Ministry, not just a youth group. Suggest to the pastor that students have the opportunity to share a quick testimony about their witness, get a volunteer leader to write a quick story in the church newsletter and prioritize these great proclamations of new life at ALL of your events!
Call me biased, but I FIRMLY believe that evangelism is the key to discipleship. As we (children, students, parents, congregants, pastors, etc.) love, relationally pursue and passionately share (not scripted) Christ crucified we are drawn back to Discipleship/growth. in other words living “THE Cause” fulfilling “The Great Commission” or practicing “Mission51” is simply the foundation for the prioritization of not just teen ministry in a church, but ALL ministry in the church! Your gift/strength/passion area may be more oriented to growth/encouragement in the lives of believers, but that cannot be done without the unchurched/unbelieving in mind. A natural bi-product of maturing in Christ is new life in Christ!
I am thrilled to lead a ministry (Youthmark) that emphasized this evangelism/discipleship model. We simply want to partner with the Church build upon the foundation that the Lord promised to be THE ROCK! We see it year in and year out, sending and host communities both growing their love for the lost and Mission51 enhanced both places! Praise God!
I believe that marginalization of teens may happen at churches, but I believe this can/should be prevented if we prioritize reaching out, become more committed to congregational exposure and relationship and build a philosophy that will withstand any one leader! Let’s prioritize!
Grace,
Brian
By way of quick review, a recent post by one of my Dare 2 Share friends, Jason (click here for his post) led me to this three-part series I’m doing on the potential ways to help churches, specifically, help Student Ministries, not become marginalized and stay a priority for the congregation.
Part one, posted Tuesday (click here to read that post), made the point that a church leadership and the youth ministry team need to Prioritize Philosophy over Personality. Quick translation: create and maintain a philosophy of student ministry that has a foundation and function that will outlast any one personality. I might add, any good Youth Pastor should want this to be the case!
After prioritizing the philosophy, we move on to the second way to avoid the youth ministry becoming marginalized.
Prioritize Congregational In-Reach: A simple principle that is oft-ignored in churches is the visibility of the youth ministry. If the congregation doesn’t hear about the youth or see the youth they don’t have the opportunity to prioritize the youth. You’ve heard it “how come we don’t see the youth at our services?” To be honest this just evokes way too much emotion for many youth-ministry leaders… instead of opening your can of something-or-other and going off about the worship, sermons or liturgy not-being relevant to teens, I suggest the answer is found by simply inviting the congregation to the youth! What would it look like to make the congregation a priority in youth ministry? Create opportunities for the congregation at-large to be involved with you. Here are a couple ideas to start with…
I can only imagine how many more ideas we could come up with that could lead to a better known-congregation. The end-result is that as teens gain relationship with those outside “Youth”, they will want to go to church for those relationships regardless of worship style, sermon length or quality of communion grape-juice.
On Monday I’ll conclude the three-part “Marginalization” SMS series with one last suggestion:
Prioritize and Publicize Evangelism.
Have a great weekend!
Grace,
Brian
My friend Jason Lamb recently posted about a trend he sees in the marginalization or prioritization of Youth Ministry in churches (click here for his post). He believes that the grey area between marginalization and making Student Ministry a priority in a church is getting slim–churches are choosing to make (and invest in order to make) teens a larger priority or they are intentionally doing the opposite.
His post caused me to take a look at the churches around my region and the regions I visit as part of Youthmark. Jason sees this as a growing trend, however I don’t think it is a new or growing phenomenon, I believe we will continue to see marginalization, grey and prioritization–but I believe the players are consistently switching positions. A church that today is prioritizing, may be a marginalizing church tomorrow. The church of Youth-Marginalization that had a key volunteer begin to act upon her heart for teens all of a sudden can become the church of Teen-Priority. Much of it depends on the hired help (or assigned leader). Unfortunately the Youth Leader (or leadership) is often seen as the glorified babysitter, the “activity director” or fun-guy (read: fungi) who’ll entertain the teen-flock for a couple years. I know this is not true in every church and I hope it can become not true at ANY church.
Today’s SMS is the first of a three-part series on this subject. I hope the series will address a couple key questions every church (regardless of their current marginalization/grey/prioritization status) should be answering…How can our church be one that is prioritizing the teens? How can our congregation be one that avoids the marginalization of students?
Please understand that even a series of blog-posts on this subject cannot answer questions this large, I am choosing to write with the assumption that many of my readers are either leading or part of the leadership to youth in your current church. I certainly don’t assume that because a church has a youth group that it is a church that prioritizes ministry to teens. This series of posts will come from the perspective of what the youth leader and/or youth leadership team can do to help teen ministry continue to be or become a priority.
Prioritize a Philosophy over a Personality. The Youth Pastor’s personality should not shape the youth ministry, it should season the existing philosophy. Let me start with a note to the strong-personality Youth Pastor: help create something that is much bigger than you! I see it way too often, a church will hire a Youth Pastor because he/she is great with teens–this is a GREAT thing, however, that person comes in and creates a philosophy of ministry for the youth ministry. Everything from terminology to methodology and sometimes overflowing to theology is dictated by the Youth Pastor. A long-term approach to church-youth ministry should be built by the leadership of the church, not the youth leader (the current Youth Leader/Pastor can/should be part of that process, but not necessarily be the leader of that process). Churches can begin to prioritize a simple youth ministry philosophy that is literally Youth Pastor-proof. Allow the Youth Pastor’s personality to season the philosophy by his/her personality, but the structure should prioritize team, not just the leader. A team of volunteers will bring long-term sustainability and prioritization of students that will not be dependent upon the often-revolving Youth Pastorate door.
I’m excited about this three part series and had a REALLY hard time separating this into a three part series so instead of keeping with my usual Monday or Tuesday SMS, I’ll do an extra one on Friday to keep this subject on the burner. Here’s the preview:
Friday: Prioritize Congregational In-Reach–bring the congregation to the youth first.
Monday: Prioritize and Publicize Evangelism–everyone has a story, they must be told!
Blessings on you and your ministry, may we glorify Christ as we seek to prioritize the things in His ministry!
Grace,
Brian
If you have spent more than 10 minutes with me in the last two years you’ve probably heard me ask (and then answer) the rhetorical question, “why aren’t are young people sharing their faith?
I give three reasons:
These are the things we’re trying to tackle at Youthmark! I believe that we can better equip students (and adults) with a relational approach to loving, caring and sharing with those who do not yet know Jesus. I think teens will grow in knowledge and confidence that will lead to a loving relational boldness (w/o crossing the line of being “in your face”). In doing this, I think one more key element must not be ignored… We must model it!
For my Student Ministry Stuff (SMS) post this week I would like to relationally and boldly (w/o crossing the line of being “in your face”) challenge you Mr. and Mrs. Adult Youth Leader to talk about the things you love!
This post comes from my experiences over the last week to ten days. On top of hosting three lunches for Youthmark Mission Ventures and our Mission51 strategy, I was in and out of many-a-coffee-shop while trying to meet writing deadlines (speaking of, should I really be blogging right now?)… In this recent time period I have had at least five opportunities to share Jesus one-on-one as a result of people overhearing me talk about things that I love.
People Want To Love What You Love
While standing in line in Nashville, Elisabeth was overheard talking to her mom about different restaurants in the area. We were hungry and didn’t know where we wanted to go. We’re obviously not locals, y’all, but the gal in front of my family was. She gladly talked about the places she loves to eat. We hit one (or two) of them up. We wanted to love the restaurants she loved. We were happy to take her recommendation.
While speaking to Youth Leaders in Portland our bus-gal (is that what you call a female who “busses” tables?) overheard a lot of our presentation as she walked around clearing plates and refilling glasses. After the lunch and all the patrons had cleared, she said, “so, you obviously love kids and church-stuff, what is it that you do?”
Being overheard talking about the things that I love will open up doors to talk to others about the things that I love.
Are you talking about things you love, like Jesus?… students?… ministry?… church?… Scripture?…your marriage?… your Family?… even in public in such a way that people will ask you follow-up questions?
People Want to Be Part of the Conversation
While getting a refill on my coffee the other day I was asked by my Barista, whom I thought to be a Christian, “what are you doing today?” I said, “just finishing and editing a book.” The conversation continued, “what’s the book about, if you don’t mind me asking?” Having told her that I was writing a book about Paul’s missionary journeys in the book of Acts we continued to have a 10 minute conversation talking about different things she and her husband are learning in their study of the book of Colossians. During this conversation another Barista joined in and asked a number of questions about the Bible, places I was writing about, the bible study her coworker was a part of and how it matters to us now.
The first gal is certainly a strong believer, but the second Barista did not know this about her… yet. I am thankful that an overheard conversation can lead to a possible relational evangelism opportunity between two Baristas!
Are you answering questions in such a way that invites further conversation with people about things of the Lord? Are you looking for teammates, understanding it might not always be you that gets so share Jesus?
People Need For You To Speak Up When The Door Has Been Opened
I started each of my YMV/M:51 lunches with a short look at the beginning of Mark 2; the passage which describes Jesus healing the man lowered from the room to Jesus. At the end of four or five minutes I would ask the Youth Leaders to engage one another with a specific question I asked. During this several minute break, our waiter, who probably should have been circling the room getting orders, instead asked me… “hey, you ever read The Shack?”
I have not read The Shack, but do know enough about it to keep the conversation flowing. It was clear that this waiter did not know the Lord, but had a baseline understanding of God’s love for him in light of what he had read in the book. It was a short conversation, but one in which I was able to share a little bit about Jesus and the free gift of grace He offers us in the midst of all the life throws at us.
The waiter continued to listen (and did do a great job serving us). I had a short follow-up conversation with him as well. It was very evident to me that he was open to the Gospel. He was asking the leading questions. He was seeking!
Are you listening to the questions being asked of you in such a way that you may see the door way open to share about Christ? It is very easy to just answer a question, but perhaps the question being asked is an open door for much more to be shared.
Are You Talking About The Things You Love?
It is easy for me to talk about my favorite team, a recent trip, my family… these things often do lead to entry points into relationship which then could lead to spiritual conversations.
However… I love Jesus. I love the things that Jesus loves. And I recently discovered that talking about Him out loud leads to these relational conversations even quicker! Not saying that I’m going to start strategically speaking a little louder or a little more often… just saying that as my confidence grows, as I’ve gotten to know how to share the story more, as I’ve become a little more bold, I want to speak about Jesus more! Perhaps my perspective is just changing, but it sure seems God is taking me to the places where people are seeking.
Let’s talk about the things we love (and in so doing begin to model to our students that relational, conversational, non-confrontational evangelism is actually a lot easier than we thought)!
Grace,
Brian
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